I think I should stop asking my friends for advice on others or for my relations with other people around me cause whenever I do so I have noticed that they care about only my feelings and failed to consider the other person‘s. They could never put themselves in the situation. Neither do they know that person well nor I can explain them how he/she is actually as I am also just trying to understand. They just keep blaming me for being me, for trusting everyone, for loving everyone which I myself never found wrong and whenever I feel so though for a few moments, I always expected my friends to strengthen my faith in love, people and this world however cruel it maybe, there’s some positivity for sure and it is with me always in the form of you(my dearest friends) and I always assure myself giving example of you that there are people like you as well. And to find out more I have to take the risk of trusting whoever comes to my way. Cause yet I don’t really have the skill of understanding people, reading their minds, differentiating between the real one and the fake one. Rather I believe no one can tell this without having an experience with the person and those experiences also might differ from person to person and as per the situation. There is no hard and fast rule by which you can come to know how the person really is. You have to trust him/her in some aspects at least a bit in respect of understanding him/her. And then you may come to the conclusion. But don’t ever judge a person on the basis of just some part of his/her behavior. Before arriving at any conclusion put yourself into the situation, try to understand what the person might have felt at that time, and what made him/her behave like that. Don’t even misjudge someone because of their earlier mistakes. If a person has committed some mistakes in the past that doesn’t always mean that he/she will repeat them. Rather he/she may have learnt a lot from them. I did never felt that judging someone is wrong but I think it should be neutral, it should be based on the real experiences and understanding.
Friendship is not always about being there sometimes it is about letting the other one to be alone. I am blessed to have got such Friends who believe in me, who has faith in my decisions.
So I am writing this because recently I decided to not to be in touch with anyone for some reason so I uploaded a status clearly mentioning that no calls and messages will be answered except related to work. Even after knowing enough english to understand it, many of my friends replied asking me “what happened”, “any problem?” etc. I sincerely appreciate their efforts but they should have taken a serious note of my status and shouldn’t have messaged at first place cause it made me behave rudely by not replying. I am extremely sorry for that.
Coming to the point, on the same status one of my best friend replied, “Is it applicable to me as well?” Knowing that she is special one. but I am such a follower of the principal of equality that I answered in affirmative. Though she was talking something else, she just replied, “bye, take care. Love you a lot.” There were tears in my eyes.
Next day, as soon as I opened my whatsapp, she called me. I could not answer the call. But looking at her timing it felt as if she was just waiting for me to come online to confirm if I had waken up. As I had mentioned of messaging in my status, she dropped me a message keeping in mind my status and putting the message carefully with what she exactly wanted to talk about. I don’t need to mention her name as those who know me know her well.
There are a few who respected my decision by not replying at all or just replying “okay”!
On the other hand, there are a few who call themselves my good friends but they just kept questioning my decision and after getting some unexpected responses labeled me as an egoistic. I don’t expect all of my friends to behave just like her but I really expect them to respect my decisions which are related to myself only.